Well anyways my blog title relates to this recent discovery about love, thanks to my Theology Professor Herman Rochester (aka the less fundamental version of the great Fr. Adolfo Dacanay, certified Ateneo legend). He explained stuff about love, and boy, I was struck at it. Some thoughts I have pondered:
1) Love is a judicious process, and therefore needs time. This happens to explain on why a lot of relationships here (and I particularly mean in my school) more often than not fail in the end. The fact that couples have this tendency of rushing things when they are in this state of being in love. You know, the typical thing about people when they are in love: they seem to live in a fairytale-like scenery, where everything seems to be the ideal. Yet these people, as the get separated from reality, loses grip of the more important, realistic things about life. Most significant of all, people, when they are in love, always attempt to align their expectations with reality (500 Days Of Summer, remember?). This concept always fail. It is indeed true that you have to develop that relationship, and not rush it, if you want it to be more fulfilling. No wonder I myself personally do not believe at love a first sight, because it will NEVER work at all.
2) Love is NOT about destiny, perfect match, perfect chemistry, and soulmates. Another problem with this society. People always long for their respective Mr. or Ms. Right, people want someone who share a lot of things in common with then, people long for those people "whom they are destined to be." Those kinds of people, as Rochester would put it, are stupid. Love is not all about an illusion, about a fantasy. Love is indeed not all about that; instead, with love as being effortful (like how Scott Peck would put it), one must be realistic about love in the sense that they should work on their relationships and not have the "bahala na si God" mentality
3) Love is about being vulnerable. Like what I have said in a related blog, one of the most challenging things about love is the fact that you have to put your walls down and be vulnerable. In Rochester's words, you become naked to your lover, giving away everything that you have for that special person. If you love someone, you cannot be protective and be Mr. or Ms. Safety. I myself have a hard time on this, as being vulnerable means that you are prone to being hurt, rejected, saddened, happy, satisfied, and many more. By the fact that you are vulnerable you (to a certain extent) put your life in danger. Like how Fr. D puts it (even if he's not my Theology Professor): "you are courting danger".
4) Love can find our hidden selves. Believe me, it is one of the many wonders love can bring in every of us. With love being effortful, as said in point number 2 in this blog, one thing that love can do is to bring out our hidden talents, to bring out a new me to ourselves. It may be strange and all, but as we go out there and court our special someones, we "extend our selves" and go out of our protective zones, in an effort to reach out to our special lover, in order ourselves to be committed t an extraordinary relationship.
And those are points that I have learned so far about Love, Scott Peck, and Theology Classes.
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On personal thoughts:
1) I'm typing this entry with my newly replaced MacBook. PowerMac (with the help of AppleCare) replaced my old MacBook with the newly redesigned UniBody Polycarbonate White MacBook. Even if this MacBook is an entry model, I honestly find the Unibody White MacBook Aesthetically more pleasing than the Unibody Aluminum MacBook Pros. The design of the new White Macbook reminds me of the design that was used with the very first iBook (the Candy colored laptops) in the mid-90's. Save for the lack of a Firewire port, a combined headphone / microphone port, and the absence of an IR port, the fact that 1) It runs on NVidia graphics, 2) Has a superdrive, 3) Uses 2GB of DDR3 RAM, 4) Has a big 250GB Hard Drive, and 5) Has a long lasting battery (my tests showed that it can last as long as 6 1/2 hours on a single charge, while using Internet, YM, iTunes, Adobe Applications, and Pages), this replacement laptop was well worth it. Kudos to Apple's impressive service.
2) As much as I am recuperating about being heartbroken (thanks Xianne, Hans, Ross, Bea M., Jem R., and the others I forgot their names for comforting me), it's just really hard to get over it. Damn, Cyril has so far been the only girl who was able to give me a major heartbreak.
3) In relation to #2, as much as I see her everyday, I still somewhat refuse greeting her like before. But nonetheless, I am still giving my Christmas gift to her. Besides, she's my CADS Mommy and that should be enough reason on why I am giving her a gift this Christmas.
4)And when we talk about love, one of the things that bugs me is the fact that my feelings are on rebound. Months ago, I decided to stop liking Betsy for reasons of complying with the bro code (she's the ex-girlfriend of my HS kabarkada, that's why), but no. Now I'm starting to like her again, being more comfortable conversing with her. I know this is really not good, that's why I have to be careful about it.
5) Finally, I have decided to make a personal photography project. Entitled "Prelude" as of now, the point of this project is for me to focus on certain dancers for every training session of CADS I can come to for December, and shoot photos of them, choosing 3 to a maximum of 5 photos, and then from there make a story out of it. So far, this is just the "research" phase, as I will fully start on this by January next year (and this project ends at CADS' year-end concert come March), as I still need to determine which 3 CADS dancers I can make a photo story out of these candid snaps. And I should thank Aaron Vicencio for suggesting such idea, and Tippi Sy for encouraging us Doc and Pub members to hang out at the Gonzaga Dance Studio.
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